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How to Do it Right - Distributions, that is

4/1/2015

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I recently learned that my mother’s Aunt Rose (don’t we all have an Aunt Rose?) left me certain items in her Trust. Specifically, she left me “two plaques of old-fashioned women.” Now, I’m pretty sure that I’ve never seen these plaques, but the fact that my great-aunt kept me in mind has much more sentimental value than the plaques themselves. I was no older than five years old when she passed.

So often we imagine how things will be after death. We assume that there will be mourning, a full funeral, and no drama regarding our possessions. Aunt Rose had everything thought out. My parents’ house was full of her furniture, and now my wife and I have much of it in our home. It never occurred to me that she had such specific wishes for her belongings, but reading her Trust, and seeing her thoughtfulness towards me at such a young age, made me feel closer to her.

When writing your own Will and Trust, it is important to think about how it will play out in real life. A parent needs to think how children will be affected by a poorly thought our Will or Trust.

Before you set up your Trust, you and your lawyer should discuss what the purpose of the Trust is and the personality of the children that you are giving an inheritance to. Here is a side by side of two different styles of distributions that I have seen.

Table 1

  • We leave everything to our children to be distributed in equal portions.
Table 2

  • We leave our tangible property to the following beneficiaries:
    Jane Doe
              The Dining Room Set
              The Den Lamps 
              The Bronze Urns
    Henrietta Doe
              The Living Room Furniture
              Marble Pedestal 
              Matching Marble Statute
    Antoine Doe
              Tea Table from the Family Room
              Bronze Statue
              Milk Glass Urns
There is a drastic difference between the two, and not just in the length. They both can work in certain circumstances, but each one has its weakness.

The distribution on the left (Table 1) does two things. First, it will most likely result in the sale of all of the property because the only way to distribute things equally is to liquidate everything. Very often the vague Will leads to drama and arguments among the beneficiaries. Second, it takes away your opportunity to let your children and grandchildren know that you thought about them and what they might find sentimental.

The distribution on the right (Table 2) is the opposite. Here the distributions are thought out, but there is a pitfall. Unlike in the previous distribution, if any of the items are sold or lost prior to the distribution, that’s it. That person receives significantly less because the item is gone. There are no replacements. It is clear that the thought was there, but the opportunity to pass on an heirloom or a meaningful item is lost. In some cases this can cause distress or jealousy, but in some cases (like with my Aunt Rose) it is the thought that counts.

A well thought out distribution will look something like this:

Table 3

  • I leave the following people the following items:
    To my third husband:
         The House
         Presidential Coin Collection
    To my daughters in equal shares:
         The Cabin in the Woods
         The Rest of my Coin Collection
         My Jewelry
  • I leave the following Cash Gifts to the following People:
    My third husband - $75,000
    My older daughter - $50,000
    My five siblings - $20,000 – to be split evenly
    My only grandson - $50,000 – to be held in a Trust

This distribution combines the best of both. It shows that the beneficiaries were thought about during the writing of the Trust, and that there is a money security if the items go missing before distribution. There is no guarantee that there will be no family drama when property is distributed, but a well written Will or Trust can help diffuse negative family interactions.

Oh, and Aunt Rose, thanks for thinking of me. 

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